PinnedUnseen Scars, Unheard VoicesThe unique challenges faced by male victims of domestic abuse deserve our attention “When the gates of mockery and abuse are opened, the heart becomes a shock absorber.” - Ikechukwu Izuakor It is an unspoken assumption in many regions & cultures, and pervasive in the media, that men are not…Domestic Abuse11 min read
Apr 30Johnny Depp Will Lose the Case, and He Knew It from the StartIt was never about winning the case; it was about refusing to remain silent — When I first began hearing about the details in the relationship between these two celebrities, my first reaction was sympathy for Johnny Depp: I know from experience that, as a man, when an ex-romantic partner publicly discusses personal details of your relationship that portray you in a negative light, you…Johnny Depp8 min read
Mar 28How to Know If You’re Truly Ready for a Serious RelationshipMany of us think we are — here’s how to know for sure — It’s called “the Wobegon effect” — after the fictional Lake Wobegon, where “all the children are well-behaved, the women are good-looking, and the men are rich.” We all have a tendency to over-estimate our own abilities and under-estimate our shortcomings; in reality, in every category, almost half of us are…Love8 min read
Mar 19Physician, Go F*ck ThyselfEvery day, a physician in America commits suicide. Dr. Deelshad Joomun became the first female interventional nephrologist in the United States. She cared deeply & passionately about her work, having dedicated her life to helping others, motivated not by profit or fame but by the strength of her conviction &…Equality7 min read
Mar 5What Can Be Said to a Fool in Love?Sifting through the ashes in search of gold I’ve never known real love. Filial love — love from my parents, love to my sons — yes. Universal love — the kind our Creator feels for all creation — well, kinda by definition, yes. Erotic, sexual love, infatuation, puppy love, brotherly…Personal Development6 min read
Mar 2How Playing the Victim Can be a Form of AbuseA law that does not account for the circumstances of how it came to be broken is not upholding justice, but creating injustice “There can be no justice so long as law is absolute. Even life itself is an exercise in exceptions.” — Patrick Stewart as Jean-Luc Picard in Star…Narcissistic Abuse22 min read
Dec 24, 2021Insights into Narcissistic Behavior as an Evolutionary Survival MechanismA young child is born. Nature has seen fit to equip this child with an incredibly adaptive & effective system for recalling every experience they have ever had, summarizing all of this information, and delivering it to their consciousness in microseconds: this system is called emotion. …Narcissism5 min read
Dec 9, 2021Respecting Ourselves in a Way that Respects OthersUnderstanding where we came from and the world we were born into is the key to unlocking a better future Imagine life as walking into a movie production as a newly-hired actor. You have no idea what the movie is about, only a vague description of your role, no choice…Personal Development14 min read
Nov 15, 2021I Once Pushed My Wife Out of a CarIs it ever acceptable for a man to defend himself against a woman’s verbal or physical abuse? This title might trigger an emotional reaction, especially from someone who has been the victim of abuse (if so, please do not think me insensitive; you & I have something in common). …Equality8 min read
Oct 31, 2021Laissez-Les Partir(Let Them Go) — La chanson que nous chantons, Nous chantons pour personne; Personne ne veut entendre amour departir. Je sais y a des peines Quand l’amour que tu retiens Est l’amour que tu ne peux pas retenir. Quand je rêve d’autre vie, L’horreur de la nuit Est savoir que le rêve se termine. …Poetry1 min read