Published in In Medio Stat Veritas·PinnedUnseen Scars, Unheard VoicesThe unique challenges faced by male victims of domestic abuse deserve our attention “When the gates of mockery and abuse are opened, the heart becomes a shock absorber.” - Ikechukwu Izuakor It is an unspoken assumption in many regions & cultures, and pervasive in the media, that men are not…Domestic Abuse11 min read
Published in Spinal Education·5 days agoMember-onlyThe Greatest Threat to Your Health Isn’t What You Think It IsPart One of a Series on the Science of Biomechanics — Ask a room of people what healthcare condition consumes the greatest portion of the healthcare budget in the United States each year, and the most likely answers will be cancer (surprise — it’s not even in the top ten), heart disease (number four, at $89 billion), COVID (communicable diseases, number…Health6 min read
Published in In Medio Stat Veritas·Jul 21Member-onlyMale Sexuality is Nothing Like We’ve Been ToldIt’s time to reconsider everything we thought we knew about the male sexual experience Female sexuality is mysterious & amorphous, ethereal & inexorable, as undeniable as it is undefinable. Like the tidal force of the moon, it transcends time & distance to shift the very cradle of the world with…Sexuality10 min read
Published in In Medio Stat Veritas·Jun 10Member-onlyHow Playing the Victim Can be a Form of Abuse (Part 2 of 2)I made the decision to be honest about my feelings and to bring up the idea of pursuing a romantic relationship with my patient, but I left the decision on how to proceed in her hands. I made it clear that, if she never brought it up again, neither would…Injustice12 min read
Published in In Medio Stat Veritas·May 29Member-onlyWhy does Amber Heard inspire such hatred among men?To answer that question, let’s lay down our stone-casting arms, and put on our warm fuzzy plush empathy sweaters — It’s been said that a woman’s greatest fear is that a man will kill her, while a man’s greatest fear is that a woman will laugh at him. It’s easy to look at these two things these two experiences and fall into the trap of comparing & contrasting them, categorizing…Johnny Depp5 min read
Published in In Medio Stat Veritas·May 17Member-onlyMy Unconventional Advice for Those in a Toxic Relationship: CheatBeing loyal to the wrong person is betraying yourself Once, I believed cheating was one of the few acts which was never justifiable under any circumstances. Life challenged that belief (and many others) during my divorce: my ex-wife had not limited herself to only one man for over ten years…Affairs4 min read
Apr 30Member-onlyJohnny Depp Will Lose the Case, and He Knew It from the StartIt was never about winning the case; it was about refusing to remain silent — When I first began hearing about the details in the relationship between these two celebrities, my first reaction was sympathy for Johnny Depp: I know from experience that, as a man, when an ex-romantic partner publicly discusses personal details of your relationship that portray you in a negative light, you…Johnny Depp8 min read
Mar 28Member-onlyHow to Know If You’re Truly Ready for a Serious RelationshipMany of us think we are — here’s how to know for sure — It’s called “the Wobegon effect” — after the fictional Lake Wobegon, where “all the children are well-behaved, the women are good-looking, and the men are rich.” We all have a tendency to over-estimate our own abilities and under-estimate our shortcomings; in reality, in every category, almost half of us are…Love8 min read
Mar 19Member-onlyPhysician, Go F*ck ThyselfEvery day, a physician in America commits suicide. Dr. Deelshad Joomun became the first female interventional nephrologist in the United States. She cared deeply & passionately about her work, having dedicated her life to helping others, motivated not by profit or fame but by the strength of her conviction &…Equality7 min read
Mar 5Member-onlyWhat Can Be Said to a Fool in Love?Sifting through the ashes in search of gold I’ve never known real love. Filial love — love from my parents, love to my sons — yes. Universal love — the kind our Creator feels for all creation — well, kinda by definition, yes. Erotic, sexual love, infatuation, puppy love, brotherly…Personal Development6 min read