Published in In Medio Stat Veritas·PinnedUnseen Scars, Unheard VoicesThe unique challenges faced by male victims of domestic abuse deserve our attention “When the gates of mockery and abuse are opened, the heart becomes a shock absorber.” - Ikechukwu Izuakor It is an unspoken assumption in many regions & cultures, and pervasive in the media, that men are not…Domestic Abuse11 min read
Published in In Medio Stat Veritas·Jun 10How Playing the Victim Can be a Form of Abuse (Part 2 of 2)I made the decision to be honest about my feelings and to bring up the idea of pursuing a romantic relationship with my patient, but I left the decision on how to proceed in her hands. I made it clear that, if she never brought it up again, neither would…Injustice12 min read
Published in In Medio Stat Veritas·May 29Why does Amber Heard inspire such hatred among men?To answer that question, let’s lay down our stone-casting arms, and put on our warm fuzzy plush empathy sweaters — It’s been said that a woman’s greatest fear is that a man will kill her, while a man’s greatest fear is that a woman will laugh at him. It’s easy to look at these two things these two experiences and fall into the trap of comparing & contrasting them, categorizing…Johnny Depp5 min read
Published in In Medio Stat Veritas·May 17My Unconventional Advice for Those in a Toxic Relationship: CheatBeing loyal to the wrong person is betraying yourself Once, I believed cheating was one of the few acts which was never justifiable under any circumstances. Life challenged that belief (and many others) during my divorce: my ex-wife had not limited herself to only one man for over ten years…Affairs4 min read
Apr 30Johnny Depp Will Lose the Case, and He Knew It from the StartIt was never about winning the case; it was about refusing to remain silent — When I first began hearing about the details in the relationship between these two celebrities, my first reaction was sympathy for Johnny Depp: I know from experience that, as a man, when an ex-romantic partner publicly discusses personal details of your relationship that portray you in a negative light, you…Johnny Depp8 min read
Mar 28How to Know If You’re Truly Ready for a Serious RelationshipMany of us think we are — here’s how to know for sure — It’s called “the Wobegon effect” — after the fictional Lake Wobegon, where “all the children are well-behaved, the women are good-looking, and the men are rich.” We all have a tendency to over-estimate our own abilities and under-estimate our shortcomings; in reality, in every category, almost half of us are…Love8 min read
Mar 19Physician, Go F*ck ThyselfEvery day, a physician in America commits suicide. Dr. Deelshad Joomun became the first female interventional nephrologist in the United States. She cared deeply & passionately about her work, having dedicated her life to helping others, motivated not by profit or fame but by the strength of her conviction &…Equality7 min read
Mar 5What Can Be Said to a Fool in Love?Sifting through the ashes in search of gold I’ve never known real love. Filial love — love from my parents, love to my sons — yes. Universal love — the kind our Creator feels for all creation — well, kinda by definition, yes. Erotic, sexual love, infatuation, puppy love, brotherly…Personal Development6 min read
Published in In Medio Stat Veritas·Mar 2How Playing the Victim Can be a Form of Abuse (Part 1 of 2)A law that does not account for the circumstances of how it came to be broken is not upholding justice, but creating injustice “There can be no justice so long as law is absolute. Even life itself is an exercise in exceptions.” …Narcissistic Abuse11 min read
Dec 24, 2021Insights into Narcissistic Behavior as an Evolutionary Survival MechanismA young child is born. Nature has seen fit to equip this child with an incredibly adaptive & effective system for recalling every experience they have ever had, summarizing all of this information, and delivering it to their consciousness in microseconds: this system is called emotion. However, like every system…Narcissism5 min read