What a complete crap show — Yes. I have been following the trials since day one. Entirely. And yes, I do think it’s a shit show. …

A starter guide for anyone who identifies as a man — I am constantly battling with my inner-goblin, a wretched little bastard who wants me to stay inside and never answer texts or return calls or open up. He spends his days whispering in my ear how much happier I’d be, and safer if I just disappeared. And sometimes I agree…

“No way I am going to write about this” — but then I listened to Johnny Depp and decided to do it. It was painful to watch the hearing. I was sad to see a broken man. One can only imagine what Depp went through, but after hearing his version of the story, I tend to believe him. But I am also hesitant to take sides with him. It’s not that I…

Why simply being likable isn’t enough. — Jamie was surprised. He thought his friendships were solid. He was never short of people to hang out with and never had to wonder if people liked him. They did. They told him this all the time. Yet, when his girlfriend unexpectedly broke up with him and told him that…

What you resist will persist — Emotions are natural human reactions. Everyone experiences joy and anger, sadness and fear, love and happiness. Are emotions different from feelings, and why do they matter? They’re effectively two sides of a coin, but there are distinct differences. …

It’s not confidence, it’s a complete lack of empathy for any other living thing. — High school is a hall of gossip, so it’s possible none of this is true. Then again, whatever the story, maybe the reality was even worse. There was this girl I remember who was always very stylish although she didn’t hang with the popular clique. In my opinion, she was…

He was blindsided. She’s been done for years. — Tony* was completely floored when he had come home that fateful June night. His wife April* had left the divorce papers on the table. The bedsheets were missing. Her clothing? Gone. Cooking appliances? Gone. Television? Gone. Teen son? Gone. He frantically called her and their son, Garrett.* Garrett said his…

Getting clear on a form of abuse that thrives in confusion. Have you been a victim of emotional abuse? The signs aren’t always easy to spot. — by E.B. Johnson Have you been a victim of emotional abuse? It is estimated that 80% of adults have experienced or survived emotional abuse at some point in their lifetime. That’s a staggering number. So why don’t more of us talk about our pain or our experiences? The hard-to-swallow truth…

How society treats male sexuality. — It’s 2022, and sex continues to puzzle men and women alike. We seem unable to decide if we should be having more of it or less. We can’t agree whether or not it’s worth abstaining until marriage or embracing liberation. …

By Brianna Wiest Emotional intelligence is not how infrequently you feel anything “bad” because you’ve developed the discipline and wisdom “not to.” It’s not how easily you choose what you think, how you let it affect you, or how placidly you react to any given situation. Real emotional maturity is…

If you’re a people-pleaser, someone who thinks of themselves as “being” nice, or know anyone in that regard then this one is for you. Now, don’t get me wrong, there’s nothing wrong with being nice and being seen as such but could there be more to those of us who…

Shame can become toxic for all genders, but for men, shame presents a particular catch-22. (Photo by Kat J on Unsplash) By Dr T J Jordan We give our boys very conflicting messages. We teach them to pursue strength and to avoid weakness. We warn them not to be overly…

and everything to do with psychopathology — The current view on Intimate Partner Violence (IPV) mainly focuses on the role of patriarchy and male domination of women. Feminists ask the following question: Why do men beat their wives? Instead of: Why do some people abuse? What psychopathology leads to abusive conduct? What they seek to understand is…

It’s not the reason you think — It’s popular to say that what are termed “bad boys” get all the girls and what are termed “nice guys” don’t, it’s also popular to say that “nice guys” finish last. But the problem is nobody even really knows what a “bad boy” is defined as nor what a “nice…

This unique monster wreaks havoc on the lives of her children for decades to come. Spotting her, however, is a hard thing to do. — by: E.B. Johnson We talk a lot about the narcissists that loom large over our lives, and we talk a lot about toxic family dynamics too. What we don’t acknowledge enough, though, is the specific damage caused by the maternal narcissist — a unique type of narcissist that is still…

Insights that can help you help a friend — or yourself — to see the light — Maybe you’re trying to help someone understand they deserve better. Or maybe you’re like I was long ago: your relationship makes you feel crappy more than happy, and you can’t figure out why. …

Because the patriarchy hurts you, too — Let’s take a moment to look around. Humankind isn’t in great shape these days. Most people are sick, exhausted, anxious, lonely, depressed, or any combination thereof. When we look to the future, we see a world cast in doubt and shadow. Millennials can’t afford homes, let alone white picket fences…

Male gender stereotypes and negative masculine expectations are affecting more men than we know — At a young age, a male child is encouraged to “ suck it up", “not cry like a girl", “put on his big-boy pants” or to “be a man". These days, so many words are thrown around in order to encourage the art of manliness. …