Are you a victim, a victimizer, or savior? — By Robert Butler “I don’t do drama!” Sound familiar? I’ve said it more than once, unconscious of the fact that I was still creating it. Anyone seeking to become more consciously aware, and to become truly present must understand the drama triangle and where they exist in it. Are we…

Yes, it does happen. — Medium’s female writers spare no reserve in expressing their indignant rage about receiving unwanted sexual proposals and worse from men. I noticed a comparative vacuum of men’s stories of being recipients of unwelcome or uninvited advances. I propose doing my part to fill it. But even as I begin, I…

American males aren’t doing well at all. *Trigger warning: talk of suicide — A week before Christmas 1998, *Brent hung himself on a tree in his parent’s backyard. He was only 19. His brother and I were going to get married over the summer. The weekend before he died, we invited Brent to stay with us. It had been around two weeks since…

Men who engage sex workers are often looking for intimacy apart from sex. — Back in October, there was a Twitter thread, that I try to believe was started in earnest, surrounding the conversation about men in their 30s having less sex than they’d like — and how that should entitle them to the right to sex. I don’t rightly recall who the woman…

Scientific evidence shows that the majority of women are able to orgasm from vaginal penetration and find it appealing. — This will be the first of a series of articles in which I want to debunk some of the most obnoxious dogmas of political correctness. Although some of these beliefs are quite harmful on their own, what I found most appalling is the underlying notion that truth can be sacrificed…

Men are more likely to be murdered, homeless, and to commit suicide. — In 2022, the woke ideology has infected the minds of people across the entire world. You can see it most obviously on college campuses, where liberal professors outnumber conservatives 12 to 1. White male privilege, ‘The Patriarchy’, and institutional racism have become part of every college curriculum and the hatred…

Research shows society believes men have it better, but the data tells a different story. — For the last decade, there's been growing grumblings among men's rights activists. The biggest chest-thumping complaint comes from influencers like Andrew Tate who claim that masculinity is being threatened and men must reclaim it. At first blush, that message might seem to empower insecure men, but research tells a different…

Why needing help from others, and showing vulnerability is coded OUT of our most common understandings of masculinity. — TLDR: If more guys trained in the traditional fighting arts (with good teachers, not that Cobra Kai crap) maybe they’d find out that self- compassion and empathy are attitudes of the strongest men. Not the weakest. The guys were just watching the football game My writing friend Ed Frauenheim told me the other day about an incident. …

Is their pain too big for them, too? — I’ve now had one too many conversations with men about a particular topic. That topic is disturbing. It makes me really angry. It shows the lack of conscious parenting. It shows the lack of permission for children to be vulnerable. It shows that maybe…maybe there is a reason that men…